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Hey! Jeff (and Alyssa) here.

Over the years since we’ve been married, we’ve received so many questions about our marriage and relationships in
general. Dating questions, money questions, sex questions and…you name it.

“I feel like my dreams have to die in order for us to follow my spouse’s. How do you make two dreams and callings work in a marriage?”

“I waited twenty-five years to have sex, but now that I’m married, we barely touch one another… what do I do?”

“How are we supposed to make this work when my wife and I think completely different about how to manage our money?”

“Will I ever be able to meet the expectations that my husband brought to bed with his porn addiction?”

“Who do YOU think should pick up the dog poop in the backyard?”

 

But the hard questions matter.

We all enter into marriage with false presumptions and unrealistic expectations about what it will be, it’s just a fact of life. If couples aren’t prepared to work through them together, well…we’ve all seen the pain that comes and spreads as a result of failed relationships.

Divorce. Broken families. Discovering your spouse’s porn problem. Finding yourself being a single mom. I can’t even imagine how devastating it would be to see our kids, Kinsley and Kannon, go through something like that.
We’ve answered some of your questions since we got married four years ago, but until now, we’ve never taken the time to sit down and get to the core of our own questions about what makes a lifelong marriage possible. Alyssa and I want a healthy, vibrant relationship as much as the people who ask us how to have one.

We’re excited to invite you into on our personal journey to discover how to make that possible.

Hey! Jeff (and Alyssa) here.Over the years since we’ve been married, we’ve received so many questions about our marriage and relationships in general. Dating questions, money questions, sex questions and…you name it.

“I feel like my dreams have to die in order for us to follow my spouse’s. How do you make two dreams and callings work in a marriage?”

“I waited twenty-five years to have sex, but now that I’m married, we barely touch one another…what do I do?”

“How are we supposed to make this work when my wife and I think completely different about how to manage our money?”

“Will I ever be able to meet the expectations that my husband brought to bed with his porn addiction?”

“Who do YOU think should pick up the dog poop in the backyard?”

That last one’s my favorite (Alyssa, obviously!).

But the hard questions matter. We all enter into marriage with false presumptions and unrealistic expectations about what it will be, it’s just a fact of life. If couples aren’t prepared to work through them together, well…we’ve all seen the pain that comes and spreads as a result of failed relationships.

Divorce. Broken families. Discovering your spouse’s porn problem. Finding yourself being a single mom. I can’t even imagine how devastating it would be to see our kids, Kinsley and Cannon, go through something like that.

We’ve answered some of your questions since we got married four years ago, but until now, we’ve never taken the time to sit down and get to the core of our own questions about what makes a lifelong marriage possible. Alyssa and I want a healthy, vibrant relationship as much as the people who ask us how to have one.

We’re excited to invite you into on our personal journey to discover how to make that possible.

We’ve been working together for over two years on something called the Love That Lasts Experience, which is a 12-week relationship journey that covers the 12 most important topics in every relationship, including ours. The stuff we struggle with, avoid or just plain don’t know what to do with.

The Love That Lasts Experience includes:

  • Love That Lasts for Men and Love That Lasts for Women guidebooks.
  • 12 video lessons by our marriage mentors on 12 big topics.
  • The Deep Love Assessment-a fun and easy way to get closer to each other.
  • Our brand new Love That Lasts book (ships to you first week in October).

Alyssa wrote a guidebook for women and I wrote a guidebook for men. We each wrote out of our own experience and share what we’ve learned. In each guidebook, there is space for personal writing and reflection and conversation questions for you to discuss with one another afterward.

Now, you may be wondering: “You’ve only been married four years, what do you know?”

Valid question and kind of funny; we sort of agree! Alyssa and I have realized that we haven’t discovered the answers on our own, but through the wisdom and encouragement we’ve received from our mentors and older, married couples that we are privileged enough to know.

That said, we want to introduce them to you.

As a part of this journey, we reached out to our “Top 12” couples. These are husbands and wives who are experts, doctors, marriage counselors and pastors whom we respect and look up to in regards to the 12 big topics we struggle with, avoid or don’t know what to do with. We invited them to share their advice with us, some of which has literally changed the course of our marriage (for the best!). We believe it will do the same for you. We’re including each couples’ wisdom as a 12-video course to go along with the guidebooks Alyssa and I wrote together.

We’ve got a lot to learn, too. You’re right, four years isn’t that long. We wanted to make sure that if we are going to share this part of our lives with you, it is rooted in truth and experience. The best teachers are lifelong learners, which is why we asked these 12 mentors and older, married friends to add almost 200 years of collective learning experience to help us speak to the most important topics for developing a love that lasts.

In many ways, we created the Love That Lasts Experience because we need it as much as anyone. These are the questions Alyssa and I wanted answers to. We don’t want to wait until something threatens our marriage to start paying attention to the most important parts of it.

Do you?

Marriage is an ongoing process of growth in love, service and connection. We need help understanding one another, so we’re also going to include an incredible tool that has helped us get a better picture of our relationship-the Deep Love Assessment. This, along with the guidance our mentors have provided, has helped us communicate with one another better, created more intimacy in our marriage and given us practical steps to enrich our love.

Of all the things that marriage requires us to face together, I don’t ever want divorce or a broken family to be among them.

The Love That Lasts Experience is an invitation to you-young or old, single or married, newlywed or a decade in, with or without children-to come with us and experience all the joy that God has to give through love and marriage.

See you on the journey,

Jeff & Alyssa

P.S. You get access to all of this stuff right away. Upon purchasing, you will get digital copies of the guidebooks and access to the videos. The physical guidebooks will ship within days of placing your order. You can take 12 weeks to do this or do it in 12 days if you are that couple! In addition to this, we have a book releasing with Thomas Nelson called Love That Lasts that comes out October 10th, 2017. With the purchase of the Love That Lasts Experience, you will receive that book in the mail the day it releases!

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This book took Alyssa and I two years to write. It’s raw, gritty, vulnerable, and most of all it’s our story. It was the catalyst for the entire Love That Lasts Experience.

The Love That Lasts Experience includes

  • Love That Lasts for Men and Love That Lasts for Women guidebooks.
  • 12 video lessons by our marriage mentors on 12 big topics.
  • The Deep Love Assessment-a fun and easy way to get closer to each other.
  • Our brand new Love That Lasts book (ships to you first week in October).
  • A Private Facebook Group to join.

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Topics

Finances
Finances

There’s no way around it, money can be a messy thing in a marriage, but it doesn’t have to be. Learn how to approach the subject of finances in ways that celebrate your differences rather than pitting you against one another.

Calling/Purpose
Calling/Purpose

He has a calling and she has a calling-what does it look like to combine them within your marriage? Every marriage has to struggle through the combining of dreams, goals, callings and purpose. Learn God’s purpose in joining two together as one, including his plans for you.

Sex
Sex

Simply put, the topic of sex will be a lifelong conversation. Luckily, it’s worth the work, wouldn’t you agree? Learn how to be comfortable with vulnerability and understand one another’s desires in a way that cultivates intimacy.

Parenting
Parenting

Everyone’s parents raised them differently and everyone comes into marriage with different ideas on how to raise their children. Understand how to come together and parent as a team.

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The Mentors

 

Craig & Amy Groeschel

On Faith

Dave & Ashley Willis

On Boundaries

Les & Leslie Parrott

On Conflict

Jeff & Shaunti Feldhahn

On Communication

Willie & Korie Robertson

On Parenting

Derwin & Vicki Gray

On The Theology of Marriage

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The Assessment

The frustration that comes from a lack of clarity runs deep through many marriages. What’s wrong? Why isn’t this working? Why might it not? This assessment and action plan will give you the tools needed to understand how to navigate the heart of your marriage.
Want to fight less and avoid blowups in the future? Avoid a stagnant sex life? Experience the freedom of vulnerability and the joy of being understood? Learn how through expert insight, specific to your marriage.

Receive a personalized action plan for the two of you. Whether you’re newlyweds or lifelong partners, our plans are professionally curated by doctors and marriage experts to make sure your relationship thrives.

See a sample Action Plan here!

Join Now and Receive

Love That Lasts for Men and Love That Lasts for Women guidebooks

12 video lessons by our marriage mentors on 12 big topics

Our brand new Love That Lasts book

A Private Facebook Group to join

The Deep Love Assessment, a fun and easy way to get closer to each other

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Cost Comparison

Investing in your relationship can be expensive,
But mistakes and wasted time is far more costly.

MARRIAGE INTENSIVE

$4,000

MARRIAGE COUNSELING

$200 a session

LOVE THAT LASTS

$144 one time cost, with lifetime access

 

Our 12-Week Love That Lasts
Experience Includes

When you join the Love That Lasts Experience, you’ll receive


THE GUIDEBOOKS

  • A guided journey through the 12 big topics we struggle through, avoid or simply don’t know what to do with.
  • Love That Lasts for Men and Love That Lasts for Women guidebooks which is an interactive, journal-themed guidebook for individual writing and couple’s conversation
  • Follow along with the video sessions as you work through each topic and challenge together.


THE VIDEOS

  • Watch and see the transforming power of Love That Lasts in the lives of couples on their own journey.
  • Listen in on hope-filled discussions about the 12 most important topics related to creating a healthy, vibrant relationship.
  • Be encouraged by our Marriage Mentors with almost 200 years’ worth of collective wisdom from 12 marriage counselors, experts, doctors, pastors, trusted friends and mentors.


THE ASSESSMENT

  • Want to fight less and avoid blowups in the future? Avoid a stagnant sex life? Experience the freedom of vulnerability and the joy of being understood? Learn how through expert insight, specific to your marriage.
  • Receive a personalized action plan for the two of you. Whether you’re newlyweds or lifelong partners, our plans are professionally curated by doctors and marriage experts to make sure your relationship thrives.


THE BOOK (Coming October 10, 2017. You will get it in the mail the day it releases!)

  • Look forward to the final piece of the Love That Lasts Experience, on your doorstep, as soon as it releases this fall.
  • Continue the journey into the fulfilling truth of what love and marriage is designed to be like and experience God’s purpose for you in yours.
  • Learn through biblical teaching and personal storytelling that draws from two completely different backgrounds. Jeff’s “Prodigal Son” past and Alyssa’s “True Love Waits” experience, coming together as one.


PRIVATE FACEBOOK GROUP

  • No journey is meant to be taken alone, walk it together with other couples who are going through the same experience as you are.
  • Be encouraged to keep pressing through difficult conversations and into a Love That Lasts by others who are doing the same.
  • Interact directly with us on that page as we would love to engage with couple’s, answer questions and make ourselves available to you.

You’ll Never Regret Investing Into Your Marriage

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Our Biggest Giveaway Ever

Purchase the Love That Lasts Experience for a chance to win an all-expense paid trip to
Maui to attend the Love That Lasts Retreat October 3-4, 2017

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Frequently Asked Questions

We Want our Couples to Feel Well-Informed, Safe and Cared for During Their Experience

1Is Love That Lasts Experience a one-time fee or billed monthly?

All our packages are one time fee. The main package is $144 which breaks down to $12 a week for all 12 weeks, but it is billed one time, up front.

2Is there any long-term commitment?

No. You have access to all the materials for as long as you would like. We do not offer refunds on the packages since we mail out all the materials up front.

3What will I receive each week?

Since you paid in full, you will receive all modules immediately. We designed this experience to be a 12-week course, but you have access to everything up front and can take your time with it or experience it in a shorter period at your own pace.

4What should I expect to receive in the mail?

As soon as you place your order we will ship the Love That Lasts guidebooks. You will receive an email after your purchase, which will give you lifetime access to the 12 video modules through our video dashboard. In addition, our book Love That Lasts tradebook releases in October and you will receive a copy of that the day it releases in the mail.

5Is my billing & credit card information safe?

Absolutely. Love That Lasts is built on a fully encrypted platform complete with SSL certificates.

6If I get busy and miss a week, can I still get the materials?

Yes. Each week’s materials are rolled out at once. If you don't have the time to complete the module, you can simply login to your dashboard when you have time.

7Will I have any personal access to Jeff and Alyssa?

The Bethke’s will participate in the Facebook Group and forums a several times per week to answer any questions. They will try their best to get back to as many couples as possible who are part of this experience.

8Is this only for married people?

No. While this is primarily written for anyone who is married
we also wrote it with seriously dating and engaged couples in mind. For
example, if Alyssa and I saw this when we were dating we totally would have
gotten it.